Dignity

To speak of dignity, is to speak of the inherent nature of respect given to a being, place, thing, memory or even rock to name a few. When people disrespect another and call them names, purposefully ignore them, and maybe just plain disrespect can be a harm against someone’s dignity. But first one must understand what RESPECT means.

In this context, it is a very broad meaning of RESPECT.

People disrespect people all of the time. It is natural, instinctual and sometimes not even known.

I remember when I was a lot younger than I am now sibling rivalry was just that sibling rivalry. Some took it personal, some took sides in a sibling rivalry and others were afraid to do the right thing. The right thing to do in my opinion is to let the subjects cool down, and have a respected person talk to them about an incident or multiple incidents.

Taking sides makes no sense and usually staying out of the problem or minding your own business would be the right course of action. No need for peacekeepers here. I remember even at confession mentioning my sibling rivalry.

Sibling rivalry can happen for a variety of reasons. First and foremost it is inherent in our culture of competition. If you are raised especially as athletes in competitive sports even video games can turn nasty. I have to admit the first time I lost a computer game to my younger brother I lost it. And I lost it bad, I still remember I was Cameroon and he was Brazil in FIFA Soccer on the Sega Genesis. He must of felt proud to beat me but he must have been scared from my reaction because I scared myself.

Over the years, I have grown and matured from the ten year old playing video games. But, life is not a game and sometimes sibling rivalry can take a lot of steam out of ones engine. I know my brother looked up to me and every time he felt he defeated me he relished it and it is sad but somewhat natural. He has been nagged on by others to dislike me and it is frustrating.

Time can heal many wounds but people do not know what trauma is and sibling rivalry is not one of them. So to all those who want to ruin this family FUCK OFF!!!!!! There you go. I have not yet died. If people cannot see what I am saying I know many others who have the same problem. It is very insulting and disrespectful to interject into a quarrel between brothers.

If you are not qualified do not meddle. So, we are social beings who all make mistakes. I have made millions of mistakes and smile every morning because I am alive and breathing. Yes, I was difficult to be around sometimes but that is me, my journey and my life. Once again, we all have growing pains, set-backs and issues but never let that get between your unit. Sometimes, being a voice of reason you can make many enemies especially enemies who want to thwart the truth.

It is fine, I’m fine! and I lost a lot of respect for a lot of people in my sibling rivalry.

You know who you are.

So, even though I have beef with alot of meddlers. I still have to treat them with dignity. Yes, my first reaction would be a huge knuckle sandwich to anyone innocent and deserving of one. But that would be against dignity. It would also be against dignity to retaliate or even seek revenge. The mystery of life has a funny way of working things out and realization of ones miniscule problems can never hurt.

We are here once, make the best of it. Do not forget who you started life with. At least respect them enough to give them a call once and a while. The game of life is not a game if your playing by yourself. So, life is not a game it is a reality. Once again make the best of it and do not go out of your way to piss off the only people who really care about you. That is all I have to say about that.

So, yea

should I be upset, off course does it ruin my mood yes does it stop me from living, NO. I was raised to be a machine, and I will not stop until my heart stops ticking. My values are rather self-evident. I do not go out of my way to ruin someone’s day, I use to unknowingly but now I make sure I do not. I am sure.

These are some of the lesson I instill in my children. If you have not known already Gabrijel is the kindest funniest kid already. He reminds me a lot of my younger brother in his mannerisms at that age. Like I said, funny how this life works. And Ivy I cannot express how much the little things mean nothing when I look into her eyes.

So, yes it is a good thing that I can raise children to teach me that no I cannot be a machine since I am human and humans need to pass it on to the next generation.

I know they are in good hands because I am a militant humanist. if you want to know what that means it means that I buy into the carrot and stick diplomacy of the USA.

I never thought I would say this but Thank You USA for all the hard work. Now it is time to stop the rhetoric and all focus on what is important and that is to treat all with dignity which is very American and very natural for all people.